friends or not?

today I see some people talked about increasing number of friends allowed on one of famous social media. most of them don't like it. they said that it will make this social media less private. well, I have my own opinion for this issue.

remember the most important things on social media: you do have a right to add other people as friends, accept friend request by choosing who you want to share with, and reject people that you don't want to be friend on social media. so actually, you can arrange your own social media timeline. you can choose who you want to share with, and who you want too see about their things. it's up to you. but yeah, some people just don't get that. there will always some people that complain, "why haven't you accepted my friend request?" or something like that -- delicately or not. and then you can stand on this one reason: my social media is on my hand.

eventhough we will face some situation like we feel guilty of rejecting, unfollow or unfriend someone on social media and then meet him (let's say person on this opinion by 'him') in actual life; feel stupid if our friend request is not accepted by even our close friends, I think we should not bring this social media issue to our actual life. let's put an example, you reject your friend's friend request and then you meet him in your actual life, you still friend with him actually. I think if he understand enough, he will take this easily; no hard feelings.

actual life and social media life is different. although it's called social media, but we can make a limit of our account; make privacy in our own social media account. when you stand up on this reason, just don't let this friends-thing on social media affect the actual friendship. so when you feel one social media isn't exclusive anymore because of increasing number of friends allowed, don't worry. you still can make it private or exclusive more than ever. our timeline is who and what we love to see. would you still enjoy your timeline if you see the things that you don't want to see on social media? (things on your actual life don't always look great if they appear on your timeline, do they?)

I do know it's hard to do when you have to keep him around your social media (that actually you don't want to) because you want to keep your real relationship goes well. sometimes we feel we need to be polite because we're afraid this friends-thing will ruin your actual relationship. but I just to remind you that if we face this friends-thing issue, it's up to us, it's on your own hand. so... happy deciding! :)