sudah siap menjadi penduduk negara maju?

siapa yang tidak ingin tinggal di negara maju? -- bebas dari segala bentuk ketertinggalan, lingkungan yang kondusif, pemerintahan yang tegas, dan semua bentuk kemajuan peradaban yang sebatas menjadi angan saat ini. Indonesia masih bertahan dengan predikat negara berkembang.

boleh berharap, boleh berpendapat, dan boleh menuntut pemerintah. Indonesia adalah negara demokrasi.
tapi mari kita bercermin terlebih dahulu, apa benar kita sudah siap untuk menjadi penduduk negara maju?

sudah tertibkah kita di jalan raya?
sudah pakai helm dengan benar saat berkendara dengan motor? apakah kamu menyalakan tanda sebelum berbelok? sudah pakai sabuk pengaman saat berkendara dengan mobil? sudahkah kamu sadar bahwa spion ada untuk membuat kita berhati-hati dalam mengubah posisi dan arah kendaraan? masih sering menerobos lampu merah?

sudahkah tidak membuang sampah sembarangan?
bisa tidak menahan untuk menyimpan sampah bungkus permen di tas untuk sementara? sudah bisa membedakan mana tempat sampah organik dan anorganik? apakah kamu masih buang sampah di selokan?

-- dan masih banyak lagi hal-hal baik yang seharusnya dilakukan. hal-hal sederhana, namun merupakan hal pokok yang mampu memajukan peradaban kita. hal sederhana yang nyatanya masih banyak dilanggar.

kalau belum, tidak ada salahnya untuk membiasakan diri untuk berbuat lebih baik. kita tidak bisa membebankan semua hal pada pemerintah. kalau sudah ada regulasi, bukankah itu kewajiban kita untuk mematuhi? dan pemerintah yang seharusnya mengawasi, bukan? tapi kalau kedua pihak sama-sama tidak peduli, menjadi penduduk negara maju akan terus menjadi sebatas mimpi.

dan kalau belum siap menjadi penduduk negara maju, jangan terlalu sering menuntut, apalagi dengan cara rusuh.

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saya menulis ini bukannya sok-sokan menjadi warga negara yang paling mulia. saya juga masih belajar untuk menjadi penduduk negara maju, belajar dari kesalahan di masa lalu. tetapi saya hanya ingin mengingatkan bahwa untuk menjadi negara maju tidaklah semudah membalikkan telapak tangan. dibutuhkan kerjasama yang baik antara pemerintah dan warga negara. kalau sering bicara tanpa bertindak, tidak ada satu tujuan yang akan tercapai. setuju?

friends or not?

today I see some people talked about increasing number of friends allowed on one of famous social media. most of them don't like it. they said that it will make this social media less private. well, I have my own opinion for this issue.

remember the most important things on social media: you do have a right to add other people as friends, accept friend request by choosing who you want to share with, and reject people that you don't want to be friend on social media. so actually, you can arrange your own social media timeline. you can choose who you want to share with, and who you want too see about their things. it's up to you. but yeah, some people just don't get that. there will always some people that complain, "why haven't you accepted my friend request?" or something like that -- delicately or not. and then you can stand on this one reason: my social media is on my hand.

eventhough we will face some situation like we feel guilty of rejecting, unfollow or unfriend someone on social media and then meet him (let's say person on this opinion by 'him') in actual life; feel stupid if our friend request is not accepted by even our close friends, I think we should not bring this social media issue to our actual life. let's put an example, you reject your friend's friend request and then you meet him in your actual life, you still friend with him actually. I think if he understand enough, he will take this easily; no hard feelings.

actual life and social media life is different. although it's called social media, but we can make a limit of our account; make privacy in our own social media account. when you stand up on this reason, just don't let this friends-thing on social media affect the actual friendship. so when you feel one social media isn't exclusive anymore because of increasing number of friends allowed, don't worry. you still can make it private or exclusive more than ever. our timeline is who and what we love to see. would you still enjoy your timeline if you see the things that you don't want to see on social media? (things on your actual life don't always look great if they appear on your timeline, do they?)

I do know it's hard to do when you have to keep him around your social media (that actually you don't want to) because you want to keep your real relationship goes well. sometimes we feel we need to be polite because we're afraid this friends-thing will ruin your actual relationship. but I just to remind you that if we face this friends-thing issue, it's up to us, it's on your own hand. so... happy deciding! :)

please, remind me.

he's complicated.
he's everything.
he's precious.

about him? too much to explain. just remind me when something happen, he's one of the best parts of my life. whether we're ended up together or not, I thank God for having him in my life.

he's the man who makes me know that someone could love other sincerely. he proves that the north pole pulls the south pull in the magnet theory; two different things somehow are just meant to be together. he reminds me that love is complicated. he makes me think that differences can burst into great colors of your life.

so please remind me that I had a good time with him. I'll always wish him every single the best thing in his life.